I have much to learn.
Concerning sufferings, in his diary on Dec 21, 1720 St. Paul of the Cross writes:
I would like to make everyone understand the great grace that God in his mercy bestows when he sends us suffering, especially suffering devoid of consolation. Then indeed the soul is purified like gold in the furnace; without knowing it. It becomes radiant and is set free to take flight to its Good, that is to the blessed transformation. It carries the cross with Jesus and knows it not. I understand that this is a great and fruitful way of suffering most pleasing to God, because the soul thereby becomes indifferent to such an extent that it no longer thinks of sorrow or joy but solely of remaining conformed to the holy will of its beloved Spouse, Jesus.